The Art of Forgiveness: An Easy Strategy to Enhance All Your RelationshipsPosted on Jul 31, 2012 in Articles, Blog, Happiness, Recovering from Abuse, Recovering from Addiction, Recovering from Depression, Recovering from Divorce, Recovering from Stress Burnout, Well-being | 0 comments
Forgiveness is a powerful tool; it has the ability to enhance your life or hold you back from opportunity. Forgiving others and yourself can open the door to endless happy possibilities in life. It may take time to forgive others but once you do master the art of forgiveness, you will be able to see all your personal relationships enhance.
Here is an easy and proven strategy that will help you to forgive others and see your own relationships in your life enhance.
It’s important to know how forgiveness affects our lives. Not forgiving makes us hold on to unnecessary pain and memories from the past. Not forgiving someone can leave us with residual feelings of anger that we end up taking out on loved ones without realising it. If we always have ties to our past, then it makes it impossible to move happily forward in our lives. It is important to know and realise how holding onto anger affects our lives. Once you realise the effects and the importance of forgiveness, then you can move forward by starting to forgive others. Forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean associating with and being friends with the people that hurt you, it simply means letting go of the pain they have caused.
Take the control away from the offender
If you forgive someone who has hurt you then you have removed the control they have over your life. Not forgiving someone leaves us bitter and angry. These negative emotions end up controlling our lives and the decisions we make, as we feel upset. We don’t necessarily realise how we may be reacting. Forgiving lets you move on without any ill feelings.
Try to see the other person’s perspective
Sometimes people do things that might hurt us or things that we don’t agree with. We should try to see both sides of the story. The other person may have a good reason for their actions. Sometimes people act out of wrong information or misunderstandings. It’s good to find out the other person’s side of the story as it might make more sense or give us closure.
Forgiving ourselves probably is the best healing technique. Sometimes we can hold ourselves responsible for things that are way out of our control. We become tougher with ourselves even to the point of holding ourselves accountable for the things that go wrong around us. Forgiving ourselves lets us heal the torture we put ourselves through. By forgiving ourselves we can build a better relationship with ourselves as well as letting go of the past mistakes.
It takes time and discipline to learn the art of forgiveness. Once you can conquer it, you will see the benefits that it will bring to your life. You will begin to have a better relationship with yourself, you will end up having better relationships with others as you move on to a better place in your life, and you will start to have trusting, respectful, open relationships with those around you.
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These suggestions have a track record of working for people in this situation. We recommend that you try these tips and see which ones are suitable for you. You may find that other approaches work for you too. Depending on your circumstances, a consultation with your GP may be advised.