Seven Top Tips on How to Grow Confidence Following Divorce

Divorce is an experience that changes lives. You can be left with a whole range of difficult emotions and lose confidence. On top of that there are likely to be many other challenges, such as your finances or finding a new home. Here especially for you are the seven top tips on how to grow your confidence and begin your new and amazing life.

1) Forgive and let go

Forgiving not only your ex partner but also yourself is key to moving on and regaining your life. Regret will bring you down and asking ‘What if…?’ questions is a waste of time. Find the time to sit down and accept what has happened and that while there may want to spread blame around you are harming yourself (and possibly others you care about too) by harbouring resentment. Forgiving entirely may be impossible at this stage for many reasons but in coming to terms with the past you can acknowledge yourself and the bright future you can open up to.

2) Have supportive relationships

Make sure to seek support from friends and family. Choose people who are positive and will help to build you up and cheer you on. Talk to someone, whether that is friends, family or a coach, mentor or counsellor about how you feel.  Pretending that you are ‘fine’ may only embeds the difficult emotions deeper. It at all possible, make certain to socialise as being with other people can do the world of good.

3) Make time for yourself

Give yourself some ‘me’ time. Take up an old (or new) hobby or class. Take time out each day to relax and do what you want as now you are alone there is plenty of opportunity.

4) Find your true self

Being in a marriage requires compromise over all parts of your life – including possibly what to buy at the supermarket or where to go on a weekend outing. After being with your ex-partner for years you can loose your self awareness. This is the time to look inside and reinvent yourself, to discover who you are and who you want to be.

5) Focus on the positive

There can be many perceived negative aspect to a divorce. You may have lost friends, family and time with the children. Consider, a friend that deserts you after the divorce is no real friend. There are many positives to find and you have the freedom to discover these.

6) Take care of your health

Eating a healthy diet is important for your recovery. Exercise is good for you as it releases serotonin into the brain which helps to fight depression. If you are worried about your health do not be afraid to go to your GP with your concerns.

7) Your children are important

Be sure to sit down with your children and explain the situation and that the divorce is not their fault. Do not burden your children with the difficult emotions of the divorce. This may harm them and increase your sense of guilt over the divorce. Spend time with your children in a fun and positive way to create new, happy memories that will last a lifetime.

Take to heart all of these tips and you will be able to move on from the trauma of your divorce.

Hannah Harrison

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These suggestions have a track record of working for people in this situation. We recommend that you try these tips and see which ones are suitable for you. You may find that other approaches work for you too. Depending on your circumstances, a consultation with your GP may be advised.

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