5 Easy Ways to Surrender (The Perfect Antidote for Control Freaks)

The concept of surrender has a number of meanings: It can mean ‘giving up’ or being defeated by the task in front of you.

Here we are talking about letting go and becoming more relaxed in life. If you  find yourself constantly wound up by things you can’t dictate, here are 5 simple steps to letting go of your worries.. Practising them at your own pace will eventually lead to finding yourself mentally feeling freer.

1) Accept you can’t control everything

It’s impossible to be on top of everything all the time; sometimes we try and micro-manage every aspect of our lives because we’re afraid of what would happen if we didn’t. The truth is that we tend to worry far too much, and if we just acknowledge our inner fear, learn to take a deep breath, step back and surrender, we’d realise that most things work themselves out without us.

2) Don’t sweat the small stuff

Things don’t always go according to plan and you need to be prepared for this; best not to look at every little blip negatively or think of it as an obstacle. Sometimes things go wrong and this is a necessary stepping-stone that you can learn from in life. Learn to prioritise what’s more important, focus on those things and let go of the little things that aren’t really that big a deal.

3) Trust others

Learn to let other people take the reins – if you’ve left someone else with a task – trust in them, don’t go checking up on their progress constantly. Don’t shoulder all the responsibility and spread yourself thin when you can rely on others to help you once in a while.

4) Be spontaneous

Sticking to a schedule all the time may seem like the best way to keep things organised and stress free, but it also means that life can get pretty dull. Even if it’s just once a week, let go of the schedules and find something new to do – act on impulse when it comes to small decisions that won’t have a major effect on your regular life. You’ll find yourself feeling a little perkier just by opening up to the idea of letting go of your routine every once in a while.

5) Say no

Even though you may want to seem invincible and able to cope with everything – we can’t accept every task that comes our way. If you know you already have a lot to do or no time to take on other commitments, just say “no”. If you tell them, most people will understand that you have enough to handle and will respond to taking some of the weight.  This then frees up your time to do what ever you need or want to do and improves the quality of the other tasks you have waiting.

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These suggestions have a track record of working for people in this situation. We recommend that you try these tips and see which ones are suitable for you. You may find that other approaches work for you too. Depending on your circumstances, a consultation with your GP may be advised.


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